Shockingly, this is not click bait. And this time, I’m not talking about a part time role…
I am underpaid. While I have believed this to be the case for some time now, being underpaid during a global pandemic is an awkward position to occupy. Unlike folks who lost their income or their lives, I have remained employed and healthy. For that reason, despite my
belief knowledge that I am underpaid, I was prepared to gratefully accept my meager wages (yes, I understand that my salary isn’t terrible but this is also a role for which a master’s degree is required). That was until I learned that my new colleague (who I already really like) gets paid almost $7,000.00 more than I do….
Before you say, “But AP…” I would kindly ask you to hush-it. I sat on the search committee for that role and know that my new colleague and I have similar educational backgrounds and professional experience. However, it wasn’t until my new colleague and I were having a candid chat about how little we both get paid that they let their figure “slip.” I was shocked. While I had an idea that they made more than I do, I don’t know what it was about hearing them say it out-loud that made me so angry…and hurt. I had directly communicated to my boss during several one-on-one conversations over the past year that I believed my role warranted a salary adjustment. The department had increased the role title from a coordinator to an assistant director without a commensurate change in salary band. My boss, who loathes confrontation, continually said complimentary things about my work and endeavored to make me feel “heard” while demurring on the actual issue of salary.
So on Tuesday, after that candid chat with my colleague, I sat down to calculate the true cost of quitting my job. I calculated how much I would have to earn an hour to replace my current salary and included benefits like health insurance, employer 401K and HSA contributions, and death/disability insurance. After I came up with the hourly or daily rate I would need to stay afloat, I decided it seemed “doable” and concluded that it wouldn’t be so very difficult to find another role at my current salary. Then, I sent my boss (who I like a great deal) an email with the subject line: Planned Resignation. In the email, I explained that I was planning to resign but that I wanted to speak with him about how I could depart without causing serious damage to the programs I manage. Unsurprisingly, he schedule a one-on-one with me for an hour later.
I went into that meeting a bit sad but comfortable with the decision I had made. My boss also seemed sad and asked if it was about my salary. I was honest and told him it was but also offered that a new role would give me an opportunity to continue my professional development. It was at this time that he disclosed that he had recently gone to his boss to inquire about both a bonus and a salary adjustment for me. And that while he could not disclose the amount, that his boss had approved both. I was…shocked. And sad. We spent the next ten minutes talking about how much respect we have for one another and we ended with him encouraging me to think about it over a couple of days.
It didn’t take me a couple of days. With some of my anger now diffused, I did a bit more investigating and learned that the unvested portion of my 401K was in excess of $12,000.00. Which meant that if I left prior to the vestment in the Spring of 2022, University B would take back its $12,000.00 in contributions. Ummmm…no. I also spent a bit of time thinking about the other people with whom I work that would be negatively impacted by my abrupt departure, the community I support, and the students I advise. With that $12,000.00 being a significant factor, I concluded that two weeks notice did not seem like enough time.
On Wednesday, my boss and I met again. I thanked him for the grace he had extended me and asked him if he would be amenable to me staying on until the end of the academic year. It would give me enough time to transition to my next place in life, for my 401K to become fully vested, for me to wrap up loose programming ends, and enable them to conduct a candidate search during the height of hiring season (I have a somewhat specialized role). He said that he was glad to have a bit more time with me and encouraged me to keep him apprised of my plans as the year progresses. And that was that…for now.
There is obviously a lot more to this story, a lot more to the relationship I have with my boss, and a lot more going on with where I am at this moment… The only thing of which I am very certain is that I just gave myself a deadline. A deadline by which I have to have a new plan. And instead of feeling scared or anxious, I feel relieved. I have become comfortable and complacent in my current role, and scared to rock the boat less I disrupt my predictable monthly student loan debt payments. However, that isn’t me. That has never been me. I have deadline. I have a goal. And I am prepared to do whatever it takes to meet it.
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This is big news. Good for you! You negotiated a smooth exit plan that works for you and the university, and you’re relieved and ready for the next step. Woo hoo!
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Thanks for the support, Ellen. It’s a couple days later and I still feel relieved and like I made the correct decision…I hope the feeling remains.
This IS big news! wow. I’d be furious too re: the $7K thing, as well as the role change without salary increase. How much did your boss negotiate regarding a raise and bonus for you? Enough to bring you past this new person? And does that go into effect immediately even though you are planning to leave? I hope so. (Will the $12K vest at the end of the semester, or on like June 30 or something?) Also, I’m curious if your boss is still trying to keep you (by, hopefully, getting you a bunch more $$ and perhaps some more interesting work?) or if you are both pretty clear that this is it.
And now I feel much better about the gig apps because if worst comes to worst you’ll still have a pretty good hourly income that way it looks like!
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Of course you ask all the salient questions C. You know, the ones I am obsessing over…
1) “How much did your boss negotiate regarding a raise and bonus for you?” – No idea. My boss’ unwillingness to speak frankly about money (in this context and others…like, program budgets) has always been a source of frustration for myself and my colleagues. Unfortunately, I am in a wait-and-see situation. That being said, he did intimate that he was concerned that if I only gave two weeks notice that I might just miss the bonus so…there is a chance that it happens sooner rather than later. One can only hope.
2) “Enough to bring you past this new person? ” – One would hope. I think this disparity resulted from two things really…a) the lack of salary band adjustment for my role meant that the pay scale for my new colleague started higher than mine and b) my salary at University A is the same as my salary at University B. Which itself is an issue. The bigger issue is that at University A, I was also provided a one bedroom apartment including utilities and a meal plan. Had I been in a stronger position at the time of my departure from University A (I really wanted to leave and had already put in my notice) then I might have realized how poor University B’s offer really was.
3) “And does that go into effect immediately even though you are planning to leave?” – Again, one would hope. He was so very vague. All he told me was that it was approved. Technically, I have not offered a letter of resignation and they certainly don’t want to fire me so, I see no reason that if the raise really was approved why it wouldn’t happen.
4) “Will the $12K vest at the end of the semester, or on like June 30 or something?” Ding, ding, ding. That is almost the exact date the $12K will vest. My boss did offer that if I needed to depart at the end of the semester (mid-May) that internally we could make that work even if I needed to use vacation leave to make it officially to my vest date.
5) “Also, I’m curious if your boss is still trying to keep you (by, hopefully, getting you a bunch more $$ and perhaps some more interesting work?) or if you are both pretty clear that this is it. ” – Ding, ding, ding again. A couple of months ago my boss told me of a new role he is creating in the department with me in mind that would be more interesting. However, he had no timeline attached to it and there was no discussion of a pay increase. For that reason, I refused to allow myself to be strung along. Also, the role seemed far reaching and vague. A mentor of mine (also at University B) was not in favor of me pursuing that role. I work hard and I have produced good work that is outside of my scope of responsibility for the department. I know my boss wants to keep me. But I think this is the end of the road for me with this department, if not with University B.
RE the gig apps…exactly. I don’t think I would have ever even contemplated making this sort of decision without the gig apps. I think this experience just further emphasized why I need to diversify my income streams.
As always, thank you for the support and for making me feel a little less obsessive. I will make sure to update as soon as I know more.
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